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5 Ways To Improve Your Public Speaking Skills

Looking for ways to improve your communication, boost your confidence as a leader, and engage with your organization (and community) on a new level? Public speaking is the answer.

This may not be your favorite form of communication — but by honing your speech skills, you will be able to execute your vision on a larger scale than ever before. The best part? These tips aren’t just for keynote speakers. They’re useful for CEOs, team leaders, and anyone in your organization looking for ways to get meaningful messages across in clear, accessible ways.

Ahead, five ways you can improve your public speaking skills — starting today.

Be a storyteller

The first step on your journey to better public speaking? Stop thinking of yourself as an orator, lecturer, keynote speaker, or whatever the occasion might call for. You’re a storyteller, first and foremost!

According to Jennifer Aaker, a marketing professor at Stanford University Graduate School of Business, stories are more memorable than facts alone — up to 22% more memorable, in fact. That’s significant! Most people probably don’t see themselves as natural public speakers, but we’ve all told a story before: a funny anecdote to a friend, a teaching moment to your child, a spooky tale told around a summer campfire. By tapping into your storyteller side, you can help make the public speaking process a little easier.

Even settings that seem more formal or fact-focused can benefit from story elements. For example, if you’re making a financial presentation, you may be able to illustrate key findings with a story about how they impact your organization on a more personal level. Of course, you don’t need to forego exciting figures and important data entirely — but by bolstering your speech with a humanizing story, you make it that much more powerful!

Be kind… to yourself!

We tend to be our own worst critics, especially when it comes to public speaking. Though this type of communication can be nerve-wracking, it’s helpful to remember that everyone’s been there, in some or another. Look at it this way: when you’re an audience member, are you picking apart every detail about the speaker in front of you? Or, more likely, are you trying to absorb what they say — maybe even getting lost in your own thoughts about your next meeting, or upcoming projects?

The bottom line: no one will ever analyze you quite as much as you analyze you! Once you embrace this, you’ll be able to relax and engage with your audience on a new level.

Keep logistics in mind

It’s easy to forget presentation and technology logistics while you focus on the material of your speech, but this is an important step, too! You don’t need to use props or an elaborate slideshow to make your speech more engaging — but if you find it helpful to illustrate key concepts, you’ll want to ensure that the setting of your speech is compatible with whatever software you decide to use. (The last thing you want before a big speech is technical difficulties!) A few more considerations:

  • How easily your presentation flows from point to point
  • The amount of information on each slide (it’s best not to “overcrowd” a page, even
    digitally)
  • How you plan to speak and control your slideshow at the same time. Don’t be afraid to rehearse this for a smooth presentation day of!
  • 93% of communication is non-verbal. Sometimes, it’s less about what you say and more about how you say it!

Know your audience

While certain speech practices work across the board (such as the power of storytelling!), you’ll still want to refine your approach for your specific audience. Consider factors such as:

  • Whether you’re speaking virtually or in-person
  • The level of formality of your event
  • How well you know your audience
  • The audience size

Chances are, you’ve been part of many different audiences — keynote speeches, quarterly presentations, school orientations, you name it. Harness these experiences to inform your approach. For example, what did you like (or dislike) about a memorable guest speaker? Where
possible, jot down notes about speeches that captivate you in the moment, so you can employ those strategies when it’s your turn. You’ll thank yourself later!

Knowing your audience is also about making your audience more important than the words you are using. Connect deeply with the audience and they will retain more and be more engaged.

Learn by example

Speaking of speeches that inspire — if you want to seriously expand your communication skills, learn by example! You wouldn’t write a book before reading a few first or make a delicious dessert without embracing your sweet tooth from time to time. The same idea applies to public
speaking. Fortunately, there are plenty of ways to access engaging speeches you can learn from, whether you find buzzworthy talks online or welcome a guest speaker to your organization! On that front, Jayson Meyer is more than happy to help.

With experience delivering encouraging, effective messages on a variety of topics — from maximizing revenue to motivating employees — Jayson is ready to support your team and share valuable public speaking insights at the same time! Connect with him today to learn more.

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Why Companies Are Starting To Put People Before Profits

When profits are down, business leadership often makes up for that shortfall at the expense of employees. They may freeze wages, cancel bonuses, or eliminate perks. At the same time, they often expect employees to intensify their efforts.

Additionally, leadership may sacrifice customer experience. This is often justified with claims that it’s necessary to boost revenue and cut expenses.

All of these choices are demoralizing for workers and frustrating for customers. Fortunately, things are starting to shift — and many companies are now putting people before profits. Keep reading to find out why and to learn some improvement strategies for businesses that want to make similar changes.

Why are people-first approaches getting more popular?

Businesses are making this change for several reasons. First, consumers are demanding it. Price and quality may be key considerations, but customers also want to buy from companies that share their values. This means:


• Paying people well and offering attractive benefits
• Committing to environmental stewardship
• Caring for the community

Customers are also demanding that companies deliver better experiences. All of these developments have led leaders to realize that more stakeholders are involved in business success than just the investors. People are the key input ingredient to any business. Hiring quality people and taking care of them leads to more customer engagement and satisfaction which ultimately leads to more profitability.

People-focused improvement strategies for businesses

A company can experience long-term success if it has employees who are engaged and happy, customers who are proud to be associated with it, and a community that believes it adds value. Doing the right things for the right reasons follows the laws of attraction and brings into our personal realities the things we desire. Focusing on quality outcomes, whether that’s a customer engagement or a relationship, leads naturally leads to profit. Here are some strategies to achieve that success:


• Create a social responsibility statement and ensure your policies reflect it
• Audit and improve diversity efforts
• Build a pro-employee culture
• Collect employee feedback and act on it
• Review salary and benefits schedules
• Offer workers autonomy and flexibility
• Hire for cultural fit
• Train leaders to manage for outcomes, not processes
• Make a commitment to improving sustainability
• Create initiatives to give back to the community

People before profit aren’t just nice words it is a time-tested philosophy that works. As you make modifications, remember that small, permanent changes over time will have more impact than major shifts that can’t be sustained. When we focus on adding value and serving others the profit always follows.

Looking for more insights on balancing people with profits in your organization? Connect with Jayson Meyer today.

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Jayson’s Story

Jayson is the consummate entrepreneur, dating back to high school days when he formed his first business in the rough-and-tumble computer and software industry. At the ripe age of 14, he was recognized as an early teenage whiz-kid on Oprah, 60 Minutes and other national and regional media. Later, Synergy Billing was cited as Inc. Magazine’s 762nd fastest growing company among its “Inc. 5,000 Companies.” His company has been lauded among the GrowFL and the Economic Gardening Institute top fifty companies to watch. Synergy Billing also earned First Place honors in the Brighthouse Regional Business Awards program.  Today Synergy Billing, an acknowledged and innovative leader in revenue cycle management, credentialing and education for Federal Qualified Health Centers around the country. He employs more than 100 people with a steadily growing workforce. Synergy Billing recently celebrated the first anniversary of the company’s move to its new headquarters at The Fountainhead in Holly Hill, a Google-inspired corporate campus that he conceived and is developing in collaboration with city and county officials. Additionally, Jayson is highly engaged in the community, serving on various boards of directors and volunteering. Finally, as a dedicated family man, Jayson and his wife Misty are busy raising their five young sons.

Jayson’s accomplishments over the past twelve months are as impressive in size as they are in the face of historic challenges he – and everyone – has faced. While he could have put his development plans on hold, he pressed on in his quest to create a model corporate campus for his company and other like-minded business professionals. In doing so, he generated a partnership with city and county officials to create The Fountainhead. It is currently wrapping up the first phase of development, having become the headquarters for Synergy Billing and its workforce of more than 100 people. Consequently, he has transformed a blighted and abandoned middle school site to a vibrant environment full of promise. In addition to hosting his own company and several compatible businesses, plans also call for  a community health center, daycare center, fitness center and dining facilities. As the developer of The Fountainhead, he has dramatically enhanced the economic development appeal of the City of Holly Hill. Jayson has guided this project through the myriad challenges typical of development, and he has deftly maintained a rapid pace of progress through the historic COVID-19 pandemic. By doing this, he was able to maintain service to his clients and keep his workforce on the job. Since his clients provide their communities with vital health care services, he has remained committed to serving them without interruption during this global health care crisis.

During the past 12 months Jayson has been a catalyst for business and development by creating his corporate campus, The Fountainhead, where he has relocated his workforce of more than 100 people to the new corporate headquarters.  He has been active in partnership with Stetson University‘s entrepreneurship program and is a founder of Innovate Daytona, which is a vital resource for entrepreneurs. In an effort to show there is nothing wrong with failing, he has advanced the Fail Forward Movement to help entrepreneurs learn to overcome challenges. Jayson has accepted speaking engagements to share his expertise with aspiring entrepreneurs and served as a judge in Embry Riddle Aeronautical University‘s student competition. Because of his belief of ensuring youth have character building programs, he serves on the board of the regional YMCA. He also encourages his employees to volunteer at a local food pantry as well as other charity activities during business hours – with pay. In a time when many companies are eliminating jobs, Jayson is actively recruiting workers and offering career-building training through his Synergy Career Academy. Jayson is working to expand facilities at The Fountainhead, setting the table for relocation of other businesses to the campus and thus generating new jobs for the community. He has worked in collaboration with CareerSource in providing training and job opportunities for the long-term unemployed.

Jayson is quick to say his greatest accomplishment is his family. He has a wonderful wife and five highly active sons. He enjoys doing things with them – cooking on weekends, playing volleyball and attending their sports games (before the pandemic). Recently his oldest son started to workout with him. And he takes each one on an annual “Birthday Trip” to spend one-on-one time with them, building lasting memories with each trip. Aside from his commitment to family, Jayson is a community volunteer. His efforts, along with those of his employees, earned his company Business-of-the-Month honors from Food Brings Hope, a 501(c)(3) public charity dedicated to providing collaborative solutions for families with children who experience hardships due to homelessness, poverty, or unfamiliarity with community resources – there are more than 2000 homeless children attending schools in Volusia County.

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I Am Jayson Meyer

I wrote this on November 18, 2002 as a prelude to the man I wanted to become. I am still striving towards it but it holds true.

November 18, 2002
As I make the transition into my twenties I have been thinking a great deal about the man I want to become. What Jayson Meyer stands for? Not what I am or who I am to others but the core jayson principles and beliefs that compose me:
I am completely secure in who I am. I don’t live for others and I have nobody to impress. I don’t put on a fake smile or alter the truth. I don’t exaggerate I tell it the way it is but I can be compassionate and diplomatic in doing so if it is a sensitive issue.
I don’t lie. Everything is done with integrity. If I give a man my word it is my bond. I don’t intentionally mislead people.
I am aggressive in business. I put the survival and happiness of myself and my family before anything else.
I am tough but fair. I am respected not because I demand it but because I have built a reputation of being fair and honest.
Fame is not important to me I know who I am and I have people that love me already. I do not need strangers to like me.
I realize I can’t please everyone and I don’t try. I simply do what I know to be true and right.
Many people may not like me, I don’t let this bother me. My family is VERY important to me and I will do anything within reason for them. I always put them first.
I don’t feel guilt unless I have broken my word. I am never afraid to admit that I am wrong. I try not to be.
I think carefully before I speak and never say too much. This is one of my key traits. I listen to what people say and am patient. I have little tolerance for liars and conmen. I offer my opinion when it is
asked. I don’t volunteer my opinion and never force my views on others unless it is an issue relating to my business. I don’t preach to others my beliefs.
I am a man of faith – both in a God and in myself. I am strong in mind and body. I am also strong willed, if I believe in something I will achieve it. I realize the value and importance of hard work. I
always work hard.
I believe in being proactive not reactive.
I believe in constantly improving myself and increasing my knowledge. I try to learn about anything that interests me. I pay attention to detail and remember important things/events.
I believe in acts of kindness towards others. I don’t believe in sacrifice for people other than family. I do not require recognition or appreciation from many people. I believe in achievement.
I do not believe that money is the root of all evil. I believe in rewards for hard work. I believe in fulfilling obligations. I do not practice shady or dishonest business practices. I believe in earning what I have and not accepting charity from others.
I don’t believe in using people in life. Material things do not make me the person that I am and I do not need them in my life to be happy. I do believe in having nice things but I work hard and earn them. I do everything to the best of my ability and demand the same from people I associate with. I don’t expose myself to people or situations that may hurt me or compromise who I am. I am very choosy about my friends but will do anything within reason for a good friend.
In business I realize that it is highly competitive. I always strive to be number one and demand my people to do the same. I am an aggressive business man. Some people are intimidated by me, they
shouldn’t be. I’m only focused on profits and innovation. If I enter into a contract or give a man my word it is as solid as oak. I don’t worship money I respect and appreciate it. I appreciate all the things I earn.
I control my business and run a tight ship. I don’t overly depend on people in my business and have enough knowledge to carryout any task within any of my companies. I strive to understand every
aspect of my operations and scrutinize every dollar that comes in and goes out. If I am not number one in an industry I shoot for that as my goal. I have made a lot of money but it hasn’t changed me. I
control the money not the other way around. I am always humble.
I am serious when necessary but know how to have a good time. I believe in thinking things through.
I am a man of the world. I can be in the country working on a farm or in the city at a business meeting and I am still in my comfort level. I have come to realize that I shape the world, not the other way
around. I am a man who was born to LIVE. I am Jayson Meyer.

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MJM Interview – Keys to Success

What others are saying about Jayson

“A brilliant strategist”
“He turns problems into solutions”
“Wisdom beyond his years”
“He has the “Midas” touch”
“Delivers on promises”
“Visionary”

Interview excerpts from fall 2019

Q: Jayson, what is your recipe for success?

A: I don’t know if I have figured out that exact recipe yet. When I think back over the years I have always had this flame inside me that has driven me to achieve. Of every quality persistence is the one that has been most key. It has kept me from giving up when most people would have. Next would be a deep confidence in myself and my abilities which minimized the fear of failure. I’ve never been afraid to try something new if it makes sense. I always try to keep an open mind and not get too married to my ideas. If I distill it to the top 3 characteristics it would be persistence to push through, deep desire to achieve, and the discipline to create the habits necessary to succeed.

Q: You mention a flame inside you that has been there since youth. What were you like as a child?

A: Shorter and smaller otherwise, not much different.

I was always eager to achieve and prove myself to the world. I felt when I was young that I was destined to do something bigger and be someone that contributed to the world. My inner voice told me i could do anything if I set my mind to it. That minimized fears and anxieties which cleared the path for me to follow my dreams.

Q: You got started in business at a young age and dropped out of high school. What motivated you to do that and can you describe what your self-talk was like during that time?

A: That’s a deep question!

I remember certain mantras (from my mom) from when I was a boy “always try your best” “you can do anything if you put your mind to it” “get good grades and you’ll be successful.”

I recall being very focused on my grades because I wanted to be a “success” in life. I was a high performer in school until I learned that I could be a success in life without getting good grades and succeeding in school. I discovered this on accident when I was in middle school and I was paid $20 to help one of my teachers with her home computer. It was very much like the light bulb going off and I said to myself “if she would pay me $20, who else would pay me and could I earn more?”

By the time I was in high school my head wasn’t in the proverbial game any more. All I could think about is how I could leverage and maximize my skill to earn money and be successful. My grades started to slide and I had zero interest in traditional education.

I recall in my 10th grade year there was an opportunity to build several hundred computers and ship them to another country. I went “all-in” (the opportunity didn’t materialize) but that didn’t deter me. I was hooked on the thrill of earning a living and building my business.

I loved computers but the thrill wasn’t from computers. It was about using my skills and abilities to create and provide value to others and then receive a reward ($) for that effort.

The decision to leave school was easy for me. I remember for a split second thinking “what’s my backup plan?” Then “do I need a backup plan?”then “if this doesn’t work I’ll find another way to achieve my dream” the decision was made and there was no turning back, or looking back. I never gave high school another thought, not even when my fortunes changed.

Q: What did you want “to be” when you grew up?

A: As a child always looking for ways to earn money. This was mostly because my mother taught us to save up for half of anything that we wanted to buy. If we saved half they would match me and that could be used for buying toys or other objects of my desire. I did everything from pull weeds to sell gum at school to make some extra walking around money.

I had an innate sense of justice and I wanted to fight evil. I always liked Batman because he was a strong super hero but also a successful businessman. I thought I would grow up to have super powers. When I realized I wouldn’t have super powers I decided it would be neat to Be a comic book artist. It was a nice idea but my grandfather told me that it would be difficult to build a business that way and I started losing interest.

As far back as I can remember I loved to solve problems, to fix things, to build things. My grandfather had a workshop where he would fix tools and he let us take broken tools and electronics apart. I remember fixing a broken electric shaver and these experiences made me want to be an inventor.

As I became a teenager became more focused on earning money and went through phases of wanting to be a doctor, and a lawyer, and a computer programmer. I was in love with problem solving and loved puzzles. Computers became my outlet during those awkward teenage years. When my brother and I built our first computer at 13 years old I was hooked. That passion turned into my first business “Meyer Technologies.” When I was able to combine my passion at the time (computers) with money I thought computers were my calling in life.

I didn’t know it at the time but my true passion was solving problems and making things work the best way possible. It took me years to realize that it wasn’t the computer I loved. It was commerce.

Q: What was your self-talk like as a kid? What did you think about and what motivated you?

A: As a kid I thought constantly about making money. I saw money as freedom. I wanted to work as hard as I needed to in order to build a fortune. I was very enamored by money and the freedom and flexibility that I saw people with money seemed to have. I wanted that freedom.

The voice in my head was like motivational coach (or military boot camp instructor depending on how you look at it). When I would be ready to throw in the towel on a school project or something difficult I can remember hearing “don’t give up, don’t be a quitter, you can do this.” Sometimes it would threaten me with “do you want to be average and ordinary? i know you aren’t lazy, are you procrastinating? Are you doing everything you can.” Mostly it was curious “how do you think that works?, how could we fix this?, how is this built or engineered?”

All of this self-talk was driven by an innate desire to succeed and understand. Mostly I wanted to understand how things worked and what other people thought about. Like most kids I wanted to be rich and famous one day.

Q: A lot of people struggle with self-assurance and self-worth. “Fake it till you make it” is a main-stream concept that many people refer to. Even the most educated and successful among us struggle with self-confidence. Where does your confidence come from? How do you build it and how do you prevent it from controlling you?

A: First, let’s talk about “fake it till you make it.” I don’t agree with that mindset. I have seen it breed a fear of asking questions and admitting mistakes. It can cause “imposter syndrome” and actually be detrimental to personal growth. Instead I believe you should practice the art of “humble inquiry” and learn to ask questions and be authentic about strengths and limitations.

My personal philosophy is about failing forward which requires you to humbly approach new situations and apply discipline, desire, and determination towards achieving break thru moments. I define a break thru as a moment in time where the impossible becomes possible.

The more you fail and are able to recover you start to build a “coat of armor” that protects you. This coat of armor is actually your ego and it is like the immune system to your confidence. 2 things can attack this immune system: 1) self doubt 2) hubris
Both of these can make you sick and you can even cause your own “auto-immune” disorder where you start sabotaging yourself.

I have learned that there are only 2 things that you can control and that is 1. What you think about and 2. How you respond to the things that happen. Based on this knowledge I approach each situation with the quiet confidence that no matter what happens I’ll either find a way or make a way. That helps me to stay calm inside which in turn helps me to perform at my personal best.

Q: Fear seems to be a limiting factor for just about everyone. The fears of poverty, the fear of failure, the fear of illness… What were you afraid of in the early days and what are you afraid of now? How did you conquer that fear?

A: Fear can limit even the most talented amongst us. It can also motivate us to achieve new things if it is mastered and harnessed. So what are we afraid of?

Growing up I liked to tell myself I wasn’t afraid of anything. What I was masking was a deep fear of death and a fear of losing my business and the money i had earned.
Once I was able to be honest with myself and recognize my limiting thoughts and beliefs I could start to work on them. Whatever your favorite flavor, fear is a terrible master because it makes you see things that aren’t there.

The first step to mastering fear is to recognize it for what it is and put it into perspective. Then you have to work on it. I cannot say that I have mastered fear
but I put it in its place.

Q: A lot of entrepreneurs talk about the challenge of having structure and staying disciplined when “you’re the boss.” What has your experience been and how do you stay disciplined?

A: Most people wake up in the morning and they don’t have a choice whether to press snooze or not on the alarm. Anyone self-employed or without a direct boss to report to each day knows you have to self-manage and self-motivate.

As children we were slaves to our impulses and as we grow into adults we become slaves to our habits. Rather than fight this I have embraced it. If I am going to be a slave to my habits I choose good and intentional habits. Each person has to decide what habits (routines and activities) will help them achieve their dreams. Then it just becomes a matter of conditioning.

I have found that discipline is like a muscle that can get stronger with practice. The best advice I can offer anyone is to paint a picture of how you “want to be” and then combine that with intense desire. That will strengthen the discipline muscle and pull you towards the habit.

Q: What motivated you to be successful when you first got started and how has that changed?

A: I wanted to win at the game of life. I wanted to be the most successful and richest person in the world. I thought money was the key to winning the game of life. I had been conditioned by society into thinking money equated to “winning.” Interestingly, I struggled to accumulate and save money while I was chasing it. It ran from me. I had been in business about 10 years (27) and I lost a client (they didn’t renew) and it stung. I learned a really valuable lesson that has stuck with me and shaped me since:

You rarely get fired for doing a good job. If you do a great job someone will always want to hire you. If not today, sometime soon.

It really is that simple. If I focus on quality work people will want to hire me and pay me. The better the outcomes the more they will be willing to pay. It was an epiphany of the utterly obvious but it changed my entire focus.

Today what motivates me is much different. I like to convert my visions and dreams into reality. I enjoy solving interesting problems and doing interesting work. No matter what I am doing I focus on the quality of the output for that job. I ask myself if I am creating more value than it will cost. I remind myself how that work will get me closer to my vision or goal. That is truly my secret.

Q: How do you stay motivated?

I am a learning machine. I am driven by the desire to understand how the world and the universe work. It is a hunger to learn that drives me.

For me the key has been to remain “hungry” at all times. To never let myself feel too comfortable. To do that I am always trying to learn and grow.

Q: What was the largest challenge you faced earlier on? How did you overcome it?

A: Being young and in business I had to work extra hard to be taken seriously.

As I worked to grow the company I recognized the important of credibility and I worked diligently to build mine and to be “professional.” I wore ties and did all the right things to demonstrate my credibility. I always had a baby face and it was difficult early on to get customers to say “yes” because of the age barrier. Every time I would fail to get a contract or a job I would blame my age. It became my go to excuse. I would even add-on 2-3 years to my actual age so that I’d be taken seriously. In some ways my own limiting thoughts and beliefs about my age became a self fulfilling prophecy (i made it true).

It took a long time to overcome and I did it by building a reputation of doing quality work, focusing on my professionalism, and building my credibility. Credibility is a form of capital in and of itself. That was a valuable lesson that came from a difficult adversity.

Q: How do you handle changes in life and business and what tips do you have for managing that change?

A: “Change isn’t easy” it’s a phrase that most of us have heard and many of us can relate to. If we have certainty that a change is going to benefit us in positive ways (say winning the lottery or a scratch off) we are less resistant to the change.

As human beings we are really good at recognizing patterns. In fact it is one of the primary ways we learn through pattern recognition. When we become comfortable with a pattern we feel “in control” because we know what to expect. New patterns mean uncertainty and a lack of control (at least temporarily).

I think the reason change is difficult is because of the uncertainty that goes along with it. There is an underlying fear that things changing might not be changing for the better. That makes us as human beings feel unsettled and a little worried.

The way I approach it is by gathering as much information as I can to minimize the uncertainty. I look for the positive outcomes that should happen from the change. If I can’t find anything positive then I just suck it up and to come to grips with the “certainty” of “uncertainty” (the only thing certain is that things will change and be uncertain).

Q: A lot of people set new year resolutions to make changes. When do you think it makes sense to make change?

As a co-creator in this universe (we are all co-creators) I have an obligation to make the things in my sphere of influence the best they are capable of being. Said plainly, if shit ain’t working right I have a responsibility to make it work better.

My philosophy about change in my business has always been that once you recognize that something can be improved upon you have an obligation to improve it.

Q: You left high school when you were in your sophomore year. How did you learn the things necessary to be successful without finishing high school or attending university?

A: First, let me state that I think everyone should receive a higher education and that the value of higher education is priceless. That being stated there are different methods of higher learning and I believe university is just one of those methods.

When I was 15 I made a conscious decision to pursue my dream and vision for success. I recognized that I would have to do some learning on my own but I was naive to how much and how intense it would be. I was desperately seeking someone to model and emulate (a mentor) and I was hungry for knowledge.

I recall thinking if I want to be successful in life and business I should read what they read at Harvard Business School. I sought out any information I could find about their curriculum, syllabus, and required reading. I read many of the same books and business case studies. The difference was I didn’t have the experience to properly interpret and filter what I was reading. So began a long series of learning through mistakes and temporary failures. The key to learning what any of us need to know is to ask the important question “why?” My hunger for knowledge has always been insatiable and that created a drive that constantly pulls me towards my goals.

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Fear, Anxiety, and Discontent

At the root of anxiety is fear. An unspoken, unacknowledged, and unrecognized fear.

It starts as a little seed of self-doubt and uncertainty. It sprouts into a knot in your belly and creates an unsettling feeling. You can’t put your finger on it but something ain’t right.

We start scanning the environment for risk. We are waiting for the shoe to drop. Being smart responsible people we take what seem to be pro-active measures to avoid the inevitable pain that will come. We begin over analyzing people and situations. We run the various scenarios, often making assumptions (sometimes false assumptions), to avoid something from going wrong . The scenario becomes a possible outcome.

A Mind Virus

Further analysis of the outcome creates more anxiety and fear. This becomes a mind virus. All you can think about it and how it will impact you (and the things that matter most to you). The thought of losing something or someone becomes overwhelming. These thoughts of loss, less, or not enough become your dominant thoughts.

With these thoughts on your mind you go into the world determined to prevent them from happening. Decision making becomes filtered by the question “will this result in….”

We go about our business but something feels “off.” We can’t put our finger on what is wrong and we tell ourselves we should be happy, grateful, and “stay positive.” Yet there is a looming feeling of dread. We play it safe and avoid things that might cause any pain. Without fully realizing it we have redirected the majority of our mental powerhouse to “risk mitigation.”

With this unsettled feeling inside us we increase our focus on preventing negative outcomes. We see problems everywhere. Each problem appears as though it could lead to “the end of times.”

The Fear Becomes Real

We feel like we are having a stroke of bad luck. Bad things happen in 3s we tell ourself. We have a tough time focusing, we don’t get sleep, and we become absorbed by problems and negativity. We become ineffective at tasks that are normally effortless to us. We begin to spiral and we can’t focus or think clearly.

Our quality of life, quality of work, and relationships are under attack. Before we know it the unspoken thing we feared becomes reality.

Does this sound familiar? I may have just put to words something you feel and sense daily. If not, you are a very fortunate soul who has mastered yourself and you should be commended. For the rest of us this is a very real dilemma but it is something that we can control. If we decide to take control.

Neutralizing Fear

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

― Nelson Mandela

From a young age we are taught to be fearless and for most of us there is a stigma to admit fear. When I was a kid there were shirts that were popular that said “No Fear” and you were a cool kid if you wore them.

At the root of anxiety is fear. Being afraid is a rational and normal reaction to something we believe may cause physical or emotional pain. Anxiety is heightened when you haven’t recognized what you are afraid of.

For most of my adult life I suffered from anxiety. Had you asked me what my biggest fear was I would have probably said “nothing.” In reality I had an unrecognized fear that everything I had worked for would be stripped away from me and I would be penniless without a college degree. I wouldn’t attend funerals because I didn’t know how to cope or deal with death or dying

Acceptance

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;  Courage to change the things I can; And wisdom to know the difference. “

-Serenity prayer, Reinhold Neibuhr

Being afraid can be a smart thing that helps us to survive. Avoiding fear is what gets us into psychological trouble. The reality is we need to fear-less not be fearless. To do that we have to have the courage to face reality and be honest with ourselves. The simple act of naming your hidden or underlying fear is the first step to neutralizing it.

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The Art of Living

“Form a mental picture of what you want to be, and of all that you want in person, property and environment; dwell upon it until it is clear and definite to you, and hold it until it arouses intense desire.”

I recognize that I am on an incredible journey in life and I am in love with every second of it. I’m so grateful to live this life and I want to do it with purpose, honor, and integrity. This is how I choose to live:

I am deeply thankful. My beating heart is enough of a reason to appreciate the moment. Each day I invest time early in the morning to reflect, meditate, and appreciate my existence. As frequently as possible, I reflect at the end of the day on what happened.

I try to always do the right thing and I know it’s right because it serves the greater good, it doesn’t hurt another person, and it is done with love. When I know it’s the right thing I don’t let other people’s filters or perception deter me from what I know in my heart to be right. I have the courage to stay true to my beliefs and I don’t apologize for being me.

I seek the good, the true, and the beautiful in all aspects of life. I am committed to that which is “right” against the backdrop of natural laws of the universe. I am always assessing each situation to make sure it creates”synergy” or win-win situations.

I don’t take anything or anyone for granted. It took 13.8 Billion years to get to this very moment. I am constantly scanning each moment with the objective of leaving it better by being a participant. I do this as an expression of gratitude because I exist and I was granted the opportunity to be a part of the moment.

I don’t let my pride or ego interfere with results and effectiveness. I understand that to influence outcomes I can’t always control the events. I have the courage to yield to circumstances in order to achieve my aim. I don’t always listen to the voice in my head

Engrained in my DNA is an intense desire for things to be the best they can be.
I try not to settle for anything less than the best for a given situation regardless of time, effort, or money. I have high expectations but I aim for perfection and settle for excellence. I think before I act and I clearly see the objective of my actions or activity. I focus on doing the minimum necessary, at maximum effort, to achieve the best possible outcomes.

I recognize we all have filters that skew how we see reality so I don’t let my ego close my mind to the possibility that I may know nothing and I could be wrong. When someone presents a better idea I show gratitude and embrace it.

I believe that everything is a gift and every material possession is on loan. I appreciate form and function of material goods but I don’t pursue accumulation of goods as my chief aim. I recognize that when I die I can’t take material possessions with me so ultimately they mean nothing.

I have accepted my own mortality and I live each day liberated because I know that I may have an expiration date to my physical existence. This feeling allows me to maximize each moment and live life to the fullest.

As I turn my dreams into reality I don’t brag about my success, I let the results speak for themself. I strive to be the silent winner, the humble champion. I learn from my failures and share the lessons with others to help them learn.

I am simply grateful to exist and live this life so I can evolve into the best version of me. Thank you for this opportunity.

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Problem? Not a problem. Bring it on!

“Harmonious thoughts lead to happiness and abundance meanwhile negative thoughts lead to poverty and misery.” -The Master Key System

“I have been given eyes to see and a mind to think and now I know a great secret of
life for I perceive, at last, that all my problems, discouragements, and heartaches are, in truth, great opportunities in disguise. I will no longer be fooled by the garments they wear for mine eyes are open. I will look beyond the cloth and I will not be deceived.” -The Greatest Salesman that Ever Lived

Sometimes things go crappy. An expectation isn’t met or you aren’t happy about your hamburger at Chili’s. It’s not a good situation. When these things happen we have a choice in how we respond and react. Do we get angry and defensive “how dare you put mayonnaise on my hamburger it wasn’t listed on the menu!” Or do we approach it in a way the limits the negativity of an already negative situation “excuse me, there must have been some confusion. The menu didn’t reference any mayonnaise and I’d like to request this be re-made, please.”

This is not just about being polite it’s about maintaining your integrity to that which is “right” and not letting negativity cloud your filter on the world. Since we cannot change what has happened in the past we can only seek to alter the future. The way to do this is by properly diagnosing the issue and learning how to prevent it from reoccurring.

When something goes wrong, and we react in a negative manner, our mental vibrations shift and now the mental filters (we all have them it’s our point of view or perception) in which we are interpreting what is happening in the world around is being tinted and tainted by negative thoughts and emotions. If we start to “see red” everything starts looking “red”. Meanwhile, if we separate our emotions and feelings from the negative event we can objectively assess the situation and take ownership (we must be responsible for our own problems. Asking for help is OK but we can’t outsource them completely).

“Problems aren’t bad they are opportunities to make things work better, faster, cost less, become more cohesive, advance at a more rapid pace, growth, and advance synergy. “
-Jayson Meyer

If we react to a problem in a defensive manner by getting frustrated, angry, or fearful we risk losing our objectivity. Fear can be a big driver when there is a problem. The fear of getting in trouble can be significant. One must ask themself “if I cannot alter what has happened because of the problem how can help solve it and prevent it from reoccurring?” A mindset of this nature will always lead to advancement. It is a continuous improvement mindset that evaluates the problem or scenario objectively both identifying and solving the root cause of the problem and learning from it to prevent reoccurrence.

Our goal should be to create maximum synergy in each moment. To do this we must look at all negative “things” (situations, people, relationships, every-thing) like a scientist. If our immediate reaction is anger or frustration there are a limited number of physiological and behavioral responses (most of which end in conflict and negative outcomes). As a scientist you can look objectively at the problem or situation and work towards solving it and preventing reoccurrence.

Once we get past the emotional response “how could they” “Why would they” it becomes quite easy to diagnose and plan an appropriate response.

This continuous improvement cycle is “life”. By that I mean it is the essence of what life and creation are all about: things being the best version they can be through growth and evolution, to advance the survival of the corresponding thing(s). Because something exists it has an obligation to be the best it can be. As co-creators in the universe we have an obligation to help them.

The truth is every problem is a unique opportunity for improvement! It is literally that simple. When you realize that problems convert to opportunity (and often money and margin once fixed).I don’t shy away from problems. In fact I don’t even consider them a nuisance at all. Bring it on!

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Problem? Not a problem. Bring it on!

“Harmonious thoughts lead to happiness and abundance meanwhile negative thoughts lead to poverty and misery.” -The Master Key System

“I have been given eyes to see and a mind to think and now I know a great secret of
life for I perceive, at last, that all my problems, discouragements, and heartaches are, in truth, great opportunities in disguise. I will no longer be fooled by the garments they wear for mine eyes are open. I will look beyond the cloth and I will not be deceived.” -The Greatest Salesman that Ever Lived

Sometimes things go crappy. An expectation isn’t met or you aren’t happy about your hamburger at Chili’s. It’s not a good situation. When these things happen we have a choice in how we respond and react. Do we get angry and defensive “how dare you put mayonnaise on my hamburger it wasn’t listed on the menu!” Or do we approach it in a way the limits the negativity of an already negative situation “excuse me, there must have been some confusion. The menu didn’t reference any mayonnaise and I’d like to request this be re-made, please.”

This is not just about being polite it’s about maintaining your integrity to that which is “right” and not letting negativity cloud your filter on the world. Since we cannot change what has happened in the past we can only seek to alter the future. The way to do this is by properly diagnosing the issue and learning how to prevent it from reoccurring.

When something goes wrong, and we react in a negative manner, our mental vibrations shift and now the mental filters (we all have them it’s our point of view or perception) in which we are interpreting what is happening in the world around is being tinted and tainted by negative thoughts and emotions. If we start to “see red” everything starts looking “red”. Meanwhile, if we separate our emotions and feelings from the negative event we can objectively assess the situation and take ownership (we must be responsible for our own problems. Asking for help is OK but we can’t outsource them completely).

“Problems aren’t bad they are opportunities to make things work better, faster, cost less, become more cohesive, advance at a more rapid pace, growth, and advance synergy. “
-Jayson Meyer

If we react to a problem in a defensive manner by getting frustrated, angry, or fearful we risk losing our objectivity. Fear can be a big driver when there is a problem. The fear of getting in trouble can be significant. One must ask themself “if I cannot alter what has happened because of the problem how can help solve it and prevent it from reoccurring?” A mindset of this nature will always lead to advancement. It is a continuous improvement mindset that evaluates the problem or scenario objectively both identifying and solving the root cause of the problem and learning from it to prevent reoccurrence.

Our goal should be to create maximum synergy in each moment. To do this we must look at all negative “things” (situations, people, relationships, every-thing) like a scientist. If our immediate reaction is anger or frustration there are a limited number of physiological and behavioral responses (most of which end in conflict and negative outcomes). As a scientist you can look objectively at the problem or situation and work towards solving it and preventing reoccurrence.

Once we get past the emotional response “how could they” “Why would they” it becomes quite easy to diagnose and plan an appropriate response.

This continuous improvement cycle is “life”. By that I mean it is the essence of what life and creation are all about: things being the best version they can be through growth and evolution, to advance the survival of the corresponding thing(s). Because something exists it has an obligation to be the best it can be. As co-creators in the universe we have an obligation to help them.

The truth is every problem is a unique opportunity for improvement! It is literally that simple. When you realize that problems convert to opportunity (and often money and margin once fixed).I don’t shy away from problems. In fact I don’t even consider them a nuisance at all. Bring it on!